What is Phubbing?
Are you guilty of Phone snubbing. Have you ever ignored someone who really needs your favour for your mobile phone. It is called Phubbing.
Phubbing is really becoming an epidemic in the United states and UK.
The act is not only rude and inconsiderate, it could escalate an already strained relationship. Imagine how that little misunderstanding became a great conflagration that engulfed your whole life. Most often than not, when couples are not in good talking term, they turn to their phones and social media to snub their partner.
Human beings are social animals, we were created to interact and mingle but when our creations become an obsession, then real danger is lurking.
Phubbing might seem reasonable to you but think of the negative effects it may have on your world, your relationship and your ministry.
You complain that their “wahala” is too much. Is that a good reason for Phubbing them? Esther the Queen could have snubbed the other Jews because Haman’s threat wouldn’t get to her as a queen but she took it too far by fasting and praying for three solid days. She also went to the King Ahasuerus court which was against the norms. Esther and her generation were set free of Hamas’ planned Holocaust.
Phubbing is not good enough. With or without you, God’s will will surely come to pass.
If you’re curious as to whether you or your partner is guilty of phubbing, you can try to answer the following questions used in Roberts’ study. But be warned, you may not like what you discover.
During a typical mealtime together, my partner pulls out and checks his/her cellphone.
My partner places his or her cellphone where they can see it when we are together.
My partner keeps his or her cellphone in their hand when he or she is with me.
When my partner’s cellphone rings or beeps, he/she pulls it out even if we are in the middle of a conversation.
My partner glances at his/her cellphone when talking to me.
During leisure time that my partner and I are able to spend together, my partner uses his/her cellphone.
My partner uses his or her cellphone when we are out together.
If there is a lull in our conversation, my partner will check his or her cellphone.
Don’t allow phone and social media ruin your life and relationship.
I’ve read about someone who has more than 2000 followers and friends on Twitter and Facebook whom he connects with everyday, on the day he needed help most, none was around to help him out save two of his neighbors.
Don’t sacrifice normal relationship stuff because of social media. Connect more with people around you. Be good to them. Give them your attention. Don’t idolise your mobile gadgets. Your phone is your phone, it isn’t running away. Take out time to discuss with your friends, spouse, boss, your employees and your social/religious group.
Simple phone calls to the members of your online community as recently done by Akinsoji Sodiq of Adresocial will further cement your relationship.
What is Phubbing?